Now, anything I write comes with a caveat because it depends how your parent is and what problems they have. But I have known homes where it’s all fine UNTIL… (insert own words…).
For example, my Grandmother lived with us for many years and what she would do at Christmas is thoroughly enjoy lunch, but then become grumpy afterwards; sitting in pole position in front of the television and going to sleep. Inevitably, this meant we all had to be quiet so as not to disturb Grandma!
This very common problem is solved with the use of BOUNDARIES. And it might be a good idea to run a little training course for your family on it.
It’s a difficult balance to strike and never more so than at Christmas, but homes with a parent who’s in need of care, will often have the rest of the family present for Christmas too. As far as possible, Christmas has to work around the whole family, not just the Parent.
By asserting your Boundaries for Christmas, you take control of proceedings. You’re the Leader of the Pack. Your role is kind Carer; not Entertainer.
My Father was always pleased when he was given permission to leave the table. By allocating them a special place to go to, most elderly people will be only too pleased to oblige.
If you are a Carer this Christmas, I hope these tips will help you over the festive period and you have a wonderful time.